Baby oh baby

For all new mommys and daddys, ever wondered what needs to be done with this cute little thing? I had the same feeling when I first saw abhimanyu, it was exactly oh what is it, is it mine, what needs to be done with it. Is he going to stay with me always,will I be able to take care of him? And I am pretty sure these are the thoughts of all new parents. It is only later you realize that you are a parent now and have a responsibility which looks very tiny and pretty, but will consume all your energy and time. Sometimes I really wonder if evolution really works, how come mother and father only have two hands. 
So here I tried to collect some useful tips to handle a new born from my own experience.

Nursing: Babies eat and eat and eat. Although nature has done a pretty good job of providing you and your baby with the right equipment, in the beginning it's almost guaranteed to be harder than you expected. And there is no need to be guilty about it. It is perfectly normal to seek help. Also please do not think you are a cow and can produce liters of milk, because you are not and you have given birth to a human not to a calf so the quantity which you produce is more than enough for the baby

Sleeping: If your infant isn't eating, he's probably sleeping. Newborns log as many as 16 hours of sleep a day but only in short spells. The result: You'll feel on constant alert and more exhausted than you ever thought possible. Even the best of us can come to resent the severe sleep deprivation.

Crying: Most panicky thing is seeing your little one crying on top of his voice and you have tried all possible stuff to calm him down. Believe me there cant be anything worse than this situation. Initial days I used to cry with him but now I am learning and try not to cry every time. So what you can do in this situation is put baby in some safe place, go out from the room, take long deep breaths and come back and start again. Remember if you panic, baby will panic. And if you have some one senior at home then only GOD can save you. As they will be “OH MY GOD, he is hungry, he is cold, he has gas, I told you your milk is not enough, you need to eat daliya more and blah blah “

So please close your ears and say thanks for your advice, please take the baby while I calm myself down.

 Stop obsessing about being tired. There's only one goal right now: Care for your baby. "You're not going to get a full night's sleep, so you can either be tired and angry or just tired," and "Just tired is easier." So stop complaining after all you opt for this little thing.

The old saying "Sleep when your baby sleeps" really is the best advice. "Take naps together and go to bed early," swears every experienced parent.

What if your infant has trouble sleeping: Do whatever it takes: Nurse or rock baby to sleep; let your newborn fall asleep on your chest or in the car seat. "Don't worry about bad habits yet. It's about survival -- yours!" You just cannot spoil a newborn. Pick him up if he is crying, cranky baby always take lot of time to sleep and calm down.

And even after doing everything he is not ready to sleep, then you just cant help, let it go, seek help from partner, family member for baby and go to sleep.

Soothing: It's often hard to decipher exactly what baby wants in the first murky weeks. You'll learn, of course, by trial and error.The key to soothing fussy infants is to mimic the womb. Swaddling, shushing, and swinging, as well as allowing babies to suck and holding them on their sides, may trigger a calming reflex," 

Play tunes. Forget the dubious theory that music makes a baby smarter, and concentrate on the fact that it's likely to calm him. Play any soft lullabies or songs whichever your baby loves. Abhimanyu loves “Hush little baby” and sleeps peacefully (read sometimes).

Warm things up: Sometimes diaper change triggers a meltdown. So for that use warm wipes using warm water," It will ease the diaper changing session and will not wake baby up completely.

Soak to soothe. If all else fails -- and baby's umbilical cord stub has fallen off -- try a warm bath it will relax the baby.

Getting Dad Involved: Your husband, who helped you through your pregnancy, may seem at a loss now that baby's here. It's up to you, Mom, to hand the baby over and let Dad figure things out, just like you're doing.Many first-time dads hesitate to get involved for fear of doing something wrong and incurring the wrath of Mom. Moms need to allow their husbands to make mistakes without criticizing them, of course they are less experienced then you but letting them try will make all the difference.

Staying Sane: No matter how excited you are to be a mommy, the constant care an infant demands can drain you. Find ways to take care of yourself by lowering your expectations and stealing short breaks.

Ignore unwanted or confusing advice. "In the end, you're the parents, so you decide what's best," Learn how to close your ears for unwanted advices without reacting to them and throw a big peaceful smile.

Stop worrying: Easier said than done. Stop worrying for all small stuff hiccups are perfectly normal in newborns too. Try to research about common stuff on internet. We have plenty of information available. And if you are reading this blog that means you are computer literate and know how to use Google. So stop worrying and try to find out what expert parents and doctors has to say about any particular situation and then use your best judgment about visiting doctor. 

Messy house, forget it:  for the first couple of months, concentrate on getting to know your baby. If anyone has anything to say about the dust piling up or the unwashed dishes, smile and hand them a duster or the dish detergent!

Outings : They are pretty much required to keep you sane just stick to those places which are baby friendly, such as good shopping mall where they have nice baby care room. Keep your diaper bag packed with all possible stuff and don’t forget to pack one extra pair of you until you want to run around with beautiful Yellow poop in the mall ;)

Embrace the chaos: Keep your plans simple and be prepared to abandon them at any time.Always commit for an hour later then required. 

If nothing else, remember that everyone makes it through, and so will you. Soon enough you'll be rewarded with your baby's first smile and giggle, and that will help make up for all the initial craziness.